"Mastering the Mental Game: A Guide to Thrive in Canada

Living in your home country and living in Canada are two different scenarios, demanding that you step out of your comfort zone. Your success depends on your mindset, and the mental preparation for this journey begins long before your plane touches down in your new home. 

1. Mindset Preparation: Overcoming What-Ifs and Limiting Beliefs

As soon as your immigration is approved, the "what-ifs" and self-sabotaging thoughts may start creeping in. Questions like, "What if this isn't the right move? What if I fail? What if life isn't as good as expected?" Begin by recognizing these doubts and work on aligning your mindset. Overcoming these roadblocks requires mental preparation, and getting your mindset right is crucial for a smooth transition.

2. Understand the Why: Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone

Moving to Canada means leaving behind a familiar life. Things might be somewhat comfortable where you're moving from, you might be in a permanent job, you might have your car, your house and support system which is comfortable but you just need more out of life, you need to expand more, you need to grow more and that's the reason why you're moving. This process is going to be a journey where you're starting from the bottom, creeping before walking, being focused, and having a Tunnel Vision. It's essential to understand your motivations. 

Ask yourself:

Why am I migrating?

What am I going for?

What am I going to achieve?

Write down your vision, make it clear, and use it as a guide to stay focused, especially during challenging times.

3. Negative Energy Detox: Isolate Yourself from Negativity

Avoid negative friends and family who might fuel your limiting beliefs.You know why you're going,  you know your purpose,  you know what you want. During this season you need positive energy, surround yourself with people who will build you up rather than people who will tear you down.  Surround yourself with positivity. Find coaches, mentors, and a community that supports, motivates, and guides you during your journey. Establish a support system that will encourage you, especially during challenging times. There will be times when you're feeling down, there will be times even after you've landed that you're gonna think about packing up and returning home. 

4. Avoid Comparisons: Embrace Your Newcomer Status

After landing in Canada, resist the temptation to compare your year one with others' year 10  journey. Accept that you're a newcomer,get used to that name you'll be hearing that name a lot. embrace the learning process, and resist the urge to dive into an extravagant lifestyle immediately. This might feel like a kid learning to creep before walking or even might feel like you're learning to ride a bike. Don't just  jump into the new Canadian lifestyle, take your time, go at your pace, and stay in your own lane, try not to compare yourself to others you will get distracted.

5. Ask Questions and Stay Curious: Socialize and Learn

Socialize, ask questions, , speak up, a closed mouth dont get fed, don't assume anything. Whether it's about public transportation or daily life, seek information and connect with others. Networking is key to building a sense of community and understanding your new environment.

6. DIY Attitude: Learn to Do It Yourself

If you're used to certain luxuries, such as visiting the hair or beauty salon, restaurants to buy food, having a housekeeper or a helper, you might not be able to live that luxurious lifestyle immediately after landing, so be prepared to adjust. While transitioning, you might have to wear wigs instead, because it is expensive to get your hair done, not to mention the wait time which might be hours or a full day. Instead  learn to do things yourself girl, learn how to do your own  box braids, crochet braids or even how to loc your own hair. Practice cooking your own food at home, if you are not the greatest in the kitchen it might be a good idea to start taking some lessons from your mother or auntie in the meantime. This adjustment period is an opportunity for personal growth and self-sufficiency.

7. Financial Management: Create a Budget and Set Goals

Avoid getting into financial overwhelm, instead  learn how to manage your money and prepare a budget, considering the cost of living in your new city. Understand the financial requirements for your initial settlement and practice smart money management.  Consider money to buy your own grocery, and being  prepared for different seasons, eg. If you arrive in Winter you will need winter gear. Set specific, measurable, and realistic goals with a clear timeframe. What's the first thing you want to achieve in the first six months? Where do you see yourself in the next five years after landing? Where do you see yourself in 10 years? For eg. Your first goal might be to find a job,  then get an apartment, get a car and so on. Write them down.

8. Enjoy the Process: Build Relationships and Explore

Embrace the journey and enjoy the process. Explore Canada, build relationships within the community, and find support systems, do not isolate yourself. This country can be a lonely walk as a new immigrant, whether it's through church, peer groups, or new friendships, creating connections will enhance your experience and make your new country feel like home.

Moving to Canada is a significant life change, and being mentally prepared involves a combination of practical considerations and a positive mindset. Approach the experience with openness, resilience, and a willingness to learn and grow. It's not just about the destination; it's about the journey and the person you become along the way.